Honestly I think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity.
Instead of saying “I’m lazy,” saying “I’ve made a habit of not doing work unless it’s absolutely necessary.” Instead of saying “I’m a bad friend,” saying “I haven’t communicated as much as I should with the people I care about.”
By being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didn’t happen or wallowing in blaming yourself.
starting off the new year just fucking peachy
woke up sick new years day
someone stole my debit card information
and the bitch in the cash office at my job never told anyone that the eye insurance had changed, never had us sign any kind of paperwork or anything saying it changed, so i go to get glasses and they tell me there’s an issue with the insurance but to just talk to them and i can pay out of pocket and be refunded. talk to the insurance company and the person who does paperwork at my job and it turns out she never gave us anything to sign saying it was changed, only that i wanted to continue receiving eye insurance. and even though it was her fuck up, i can’t get a refund so i’m out almost $400
i’m done, where is the new beginning with non-shitty things happening to me. i’m sick, i’m angry, and i’m ready for good things to happen. i’m ready for things out of my control to go well.
i think cutting family members who have hurt and traumatized you out of your life is very fun and fresh and sexy and i think that people who says things like “family is family” or question people for their choice to do something like that have no understanding of just how bad it can be
seriously though bisexuality being defined as attraction to men and women is a heterosexual’s definition of bisexuality actual bisexual groups and organizations have been defining it as attraction to two or more genders or same and other genders since the nineties and plenty of nb people actually id as bi and refusing to accept how we define ourselves is so absurdly biphobic and heterosexist and jfc it’s 2014 can other queer people fucking realize and acknowledge this
The purple stripe on the bi flag is meant to represent attraction to nb genders and the bisexual manifesto published in Anything That Moves includes the lines “Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature … In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.” That was published in 1990. It’s older than a lot of people here, including me, and older than terms like “pansexual” and “polysexual” by at least a decade. Bi history is important.
‘Bisexual’ meant ‘all genders and none’ back in the 1970s when I came out. It’s important to remember that. Maybe the word isn’t quite right now, but the meaning behind it, in my experience, always has been.
It’s 2018 and there are still people who think bisexual is transphobic. This post was written four years ago and is still relevant.
In 20biteen we learn our history, y'all
